A pair of pink slippers for Christmas

Today a new Christmas ad premiered. I took notice because a) I love Christmas b) it was conceptualised by an old colleague of mine at the place I used to work and therefore filled my Facebook timeline and c) because it tackles Alzheimer’s head on.

There’s not a single day that goes past when I don’t think about my mother. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s at the age of 49, whilst I was taking my GCSE exams, and passed away just after her 60th birthday.


During my teenage years and my 20s I would dread Christmas. For me, it was a sign of time passing away and every year I’d ask myself whether Mummy would remember me by the following Christmas. Would she recognise my face? Would she be able to talk to me? Would she know I was even there? And I’m very sad and sorry to say that with every Christmas that passed, Mummy became less and less like the woman who took care of me. She didn’t know who I was. She didn’t write me cards or buy me presents. She didn’t say ‘Happy Christmas’. She eventually didn’t say or do anything. She was just there. A shell of herself. Trapped in her mind. Trapped by a brain that could no longer function. And then she died.

For years I didn’t want to acknowledge what was wrong with her. I didn’t tell many friends or colleagues. I tried to pretend everything was normal. I was ashamed. And sad. And scared. And sad. And I buried my head in the sand. Trapped in my own thoughts, I suppose.

So today, when I saw ‘Santa Forgot’ for the first time it brought back all my memories of Christmases that weren’t really Christmas. And I remembered, as I do every year, about the very last time my Mummy bought me a Christmas present.

It was the Christmas before she had officially been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. (Up until then, it seemed no one really took it seriously. “She’s just forgetful”, “she’s depressed”, “she needs more help around the house”). A nice old lady who lived across the street from us called Mim would often spend time with Mummy and understood she was ill. One morning, during the school holiday, I was still in bed – because that’s what teenagers do – and Mummy came in to ask me where we kept the scissors. I told her. Then she came in to ask where we kept the sellotape. I told her. Then she came in to ask where we kept the wrapping paper – exasperated, I asked if she just wanted me to wrap some presents. “No”, she said “I’ve got a present for you”. It turned out Mim had taken Mummy on the bus to do some Christmas shopping.

Later on that morning, I spied two haphazardly wrapped gifts under the tree in the hallway. No nametags attached but I knew they were from her. One for me. One for Pappa.

The next day, before he went to work, Pappa asked me if I knew where his aftershave was, as he couldn’t find it anywhere. Mummy had a habit of ‘tidying up’ and putting our belongings in random places and then forgetting where she’d put them. I had an inkling she’d perhaps wrapped his aftershave and put it under the tree….. Once Pappa had left, I asked her if she knew where his aftershave was. She didn’t. I asked if maybe she’d wrapped it up. She said she couldn’t remember. So together we found the gift she’d placed under the tree, carefully unwrapped it, and realised that whilst she’d bought a new bottle of aftershave for him (Mim had suggested she bring his old bottle on the shopping trip so she’d know which one to get), she’d wrapped the old with the new. We put the old bottle back on Pappa’s shelf and rewrapped his gift.

Come Christmas Day, which must have been about a week later, Mummy didn’t remember she’d bought presents for us. I did. One for Pappa. One for me. I opened my present. I knew it would be the last gift Mummy would independently buy for me. It was a pair of pink slippers. I never wore them – I wanted to keep them forever. I don’t know where they are now. She remembered I loved pink. And she’d remembered my feet were the same size as hers.


And so, when I heard the magical voice of Stephen Fry narrating the Christmas ad for Alzheimer’s Research UK, it was painfully clear that Mummy was my ‘Santa who forgot’.

“Once upon a time a little girl was preparing for Christmas but Christmas wasn’t quite as magical as it used to be”, says Fry. “…one Christmas Eve, things started to go wrong. He began to mix up presents and muddle names. He seemed sad, distant and afraid. Year by year things got steadily worse til finally he stopped coming altogether.”

You may not know me, or maybe you know me very well. Either way, this Christmas please support this campaign by texting ‘BELIEVE’ to 70755 to donate £5 to Alzheimer’s Research UK.


  1. What a lovely Christmas thought. ‘Pink Slippers’ will always invoke the memory of this article for me. ‘Jultid’ here in Denmark is ever so important for the family, and we will be visiting my parents in law on Christmas eve for the family meal in the care home where they now live because of their increasing dementia. Perhaps I should take two pairs of figurative pink slippers with me, as that would be very appropriate – they owned a shoe shop all their working lives.

    • Thank you for reading my post Robin. I do hope you will all be able to enjoy your Christmas Eve family meal.

  2. Shilpa…..that brought tears to my eyes….Masi was one in a million. Loved me like her own child. Taught me so much too….xxx

    • Thank you Chetna. We had so many lovely, funny times together with her didn’t we? Especially reading Folk of the Far Away Tree 🙂 xxx

  3. Wow this is such a brave and emotional post with a very important message. I can’t begin to imagine what you and your family went through over those difficult years. And how scary it all must have been for your mum. Thank you so much for sharing your story and in such an honest and elegant way.

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